Gold Medals to Greater Purpose: Olympic Champion Carly Patterson on Faith, Identity & Reinvention

What happens after the standing ovation? When the lights dim, the medals are packed away, and the cheering stops—what’s next?

In this episode of The Inspiration Podcast, I sit down with Olympic gold medalist Carly Patterson Caldwell to talk about life beyond the podium. Carly’s story isn’t just about winning big—it’s about starting over, holding on to faith through personal storms, and discovering purpose that outlasts performance.

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Carly Patterson knows what it means to win at the highest level. As the 2004 Olympic All-Around Champion in women’s gymnastics, she reached the top of her sport before she was even 17. But what happens when your defining chapter closes before adulthood even begins?

In our conversation, Carly shares the highs of her Olympic journey and the honest, lesser-known lows that followed—from injury and identity loss to starting over in music, marriage, and motherhood. We also talk about faith, fear, and how setbacks can become setups for something far more meaningful.

This episode is full of wisdom for athletes, dreamers, high achievers—and anyone trying to find joy and direction after a big life transition.

📌 Key Takeaways:

• What it took to go from 76th place to Olympic gold in just three years

• How Carly learned to handle pressure, nerves, and the weight of a nation watching

• Why post-Olympic life was harder than she expected—and how she rebuilt from it

• Carly’s take on “identity after achievement” and why it’s critical for lasting growth

• The role of faith, family, and her battle with postpartum depression

• Practical encouragement for anyone reinventing themselves after a major milestone

Links:

• https://www.stangibsonspeaks.com

• Carlyspeaks.com

• Carly's LI profile: linkedin.com/in/carly-patterson-a1b23a162

Episode Minute By Minute:

• 0:00 – Welcome and intro to Carly Patterson Caldwell

• 1:50 – From 76th to 1st: Carly’s early gymnastics journey

• 5:00 – Dealing with pressure and learning to perform under nerves

• 8:30 – The day she won Olympic gold—and how it really felt

• 10:45 – Life after the Olympics: the identity shift and letting go of gymnastics

• 13:00 – Carly’s music career: chasing a new dream and navigating setbacks

• 16:30 – Faith, motherhood, and learning to ask for help

• 20:00 – Carly’s journey through postpartum depression and the power of vulnerability

• 24:30 – Why your worth isn’t tied to your work or your wins

• 27:00 – Encouragement for others navigating big life transitions

• 30:00 – Final words of wisdom and how to stay connected with Carly

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From Paralyzed to Purpose – Amanda Zwanziger’s Journey of Faith, Healing, and Calling

What if the most devastating moment of your life became the very thing that led you to your calling? This powerful conversation with Amanda Zwanziger is a story of paralysis—both physical and emotional—and the miraculous healing that transformed her life, her faith, and her purpose.

In today’s episode of the Inspiration Podcast, I sit down with Amanda Zwanziger—author, speaker, coach, and founder of the Paralyzed Movement. Her story is nothing short of breathtaking. After a tragic accident left her fiancé paralyzed, Amanda witnessed a miraculous healing that affirmed her faith and redirected her entire life. But Amanda’s story of paralysis didn’t start there—it began years earlier when she found herself emotionally stuck in a high-paying job, battling anxiety, and disconnected from her purpose. Through divine nudges (and a few spiritual two-by-fours), she discovered a calling to help others break free from what paralyzes them.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, uncertain, or like your best days are behind you, this episode will leave you filled with hope—and maybe even inspired to walk your own beach blindfolded.

Inside This Episode:

• Amanda’s powerful story of her husband’s paralysis and miraculous recovery

• The birth of the Paralyzed Movement and how emotional paralysis can be just as debilitating as physical

• Why control might be the very thing keeping you stuck
  Amanda’s vision of “ministry-preneurship” and how she brought her faith into her professional life

• Her journey from corporate burnout to Chamber CEO to prison ministry speaker

• The three powers that help us overcome anything: the human spirit, the Holy Spirit, and the spirit of community

Know someone who needs this message? Share this episode. And if you’re ready to step into your purpose—even if you’re scared—take that first step today. Connect with Amanda at amandamotivates.com or by email at info@amandamotivates.com.

Links:

https://www.stangibsonspeaks.com

Link For This Epiosde: The Paralyzed Movement: Find Purpose, Peace, and Freedom From the Things Paralyzing You in Life - https://www.amazon.com/Paralyzed-Movement-Purpose-Freedom-Paralyzing

Episode Minute By Minute:

• 0:00 - Welcome to Episode 7 + Meet Amanda Zwanziger

• 2:00 - Amanda’s unique path to Chamber CEO and the “seat she didn’t expect”

• 4:00 - Defining “ministry-preneurship” and how it started with a divine nudge

• 7:30 - The tragic ATV accident that changed everything

• 10:00 - The promise: “He will be healed” and Amanda’s peace in the chaos

• 15:00 - Todd’s spinal injury—and the miracle that followed

• 19:00 - The movement begins: community, prayer, and belief in the impossible

• 21:00 - A second miracle: Brad’s story from paralyzed to marathon runner

• 24:00 - Applying the same principles to emotional and psychological paralysis

• 29:00 - How Amanda’s corporate anxiety nearly broke her—and what saved her

• 32:00 - Proposing to Todd and starting a new journey

• 35:00 - The coaching that helped her find her true calling

• 40:00 - The beach walk: a literal blind journey of faith

• 44:30 - A second beach, 10 years later: realizing God’s promise came true

• 46:00 - Becoming the person she was always meant to be

• 48:00 - Amanda’s mission to help those in prison find emotional freedom

• 51:00 - The breadcrumbs that led to her current work

• 53:00 - A full-circle moment from prison security systems to prison ministry

• 55:00 - Where to find Amanda’s book and how to bring her to your stage

• 57:00 - Final encouragement and Stan’s reflections

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Self-Awareness and Identity Transformation: The Key to Authentic Leadership

Do you truly know who you are at your best—and who you’re not?

In today's episode, I'm tackling what I believe is the single most critical but frequently missing ingredient in leadership: self-awareness. In an era where artificial intelligence has leveled the playing field of IQ, emotional intelligence—EQ—is the competitive advantage leaders can't afford to overlook.

I dive into how genuine self-awareness not only sets great leaders apart but empowers teams and transforms organizational culture. From Michael Phelps to NASA astronauts, we unpack what it truly means to tap into your innate genius, break free from conformity, and lead authentically—even under intense pressure.

If you've ever felt stuck, misunderstood, or misaligned in your role, this episode is the roadmap you need. We explore the practical tools and assessments I've used with executives and teams to unlock their true strengths and lead with unprecedented clarity and effectiveness.

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Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode:

• Why emotional intelligence (EQ) will be the defining factor in leadership as we navigate the AI-driven future.
  Powerful insights from the extraordinary genius of Michael Phelps and Katie Ledecky—and how this relates to your personal and professional life.

• A fascinating NASA assessment revealing why creativity and genius fade with age—and how to reignite yours.

• Real-life examples of my own journey in finding the leadership role that perfectly matched my unique strengths.

• Actionable advice on psychometric assessments such as Clifton StrengthsFinder and Enneagram, and how to practically leverage these results in your everyday leadership.

• How transforming your own self-awareness leads directly to transforming your team’s performance, culture, and trust.

Ready to uncover your genius and become the authentic leader you’re meant to be? Let's dive in.

Links:

https://www.stangibsonspeaks.com

Episode Minute By Minute:

• 00:00 - Intro: Why real leadership growth happens in the messy middle

• 01:00 - EQ vs. IQ: Why emotional intelligence matters more in an AI-driven world

• 02:00 - Lessons from Michael Phelps and Katie Ledecky: The unbeatable power of self-awareness

• 03:00 - Discovering and unleashing your personal genius

• 04:00 - NASA’s shocking research on creativity and why adults score lower than preschoolers

• 07:00 - The societal pressure to "norm and conform," and how it diminishes genius

• 08:00 - How I coach executives through deep self-awareness and identity transformation

• 09:00 - My personal journey: Finding my zone as a strategic communicator at Wells Fargo Financial

• 12:00 - The critical first 90 days of leadership: Listening deeply and building trust

• 15:00 - Using StrengthsFinder to unlock team genius and build authentic culture

• 17:00 - Powerful example of a global team discovering and affirming each other's unique strengths

• 20:00 - How to practically leverage assessments for lasting personal and team growth

• 22:00 - Overcoming limiting beliefs and creating a strong identity statement

• 23:00 - The neuroscience of transformation: Leveraging visualization and intentional habits

• 25:00 - Practical guidance on using Clifton StrengthsFinder and Enneagram assessments effectively

• 27:00 - Closing thoughts and how to connect further for meaningful growth

Your leadership journey begins and thrives with self-awareness. Hit play, and let's transform your approach to leadership—together.

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10 Powerful Lessons I Learned After Leaving Corporate Life

Have you ever wondered what life might look like beyond the corporate world? 

After decades in Fortune 500 companies, four years ago I got "that call"—the one telling me my position had been eliminated. But instead of panic, I felt clarity and peace because I already had a Plan B. In this episode, I'm sharing the ten powerful lessons I've learned since stepping out of corporate and into my own business full-time.

We'll unpack the importance of intentional living, self-awareness, resilience through difficult times, and why having your own Plan B is not just smart, but essential. These lessons aren't your typical motivational tips; they're born from real, raw experiences of life transitions, health challenges, and rediscovering true purpose.

If you're ready to embrace your journey, build authentic connections, and step boldly into your next chapter, this episode is for you.

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Here's what we'll dive into today:

• Finding clarity during life's toughest moments and why hardship can bring your purpose into focus

• Why investing in yourself and surrounding yourself with a strong team is key to personal growth

• Practical steps for becoming fiercely intentional about your time, your calendar, and your priorities

• How building a trusted accountability group can elevate your life personally and professionally

• Why authenticity and embracing your true self (even the messy parts!) is your greatest strength

• Understanding the power of having a solid "Plan B," and why it might someday become your "Plan A"

Grab a notebook—you might want to jot down these ten lessons and reflect on which resonate most deeply with you.

Links:

• https://www.stangibsonspeaks.com

• https://www.stangibsonspeaks.com/10-lessons

Episode Minute By Minute:

• 00:00 - Introduction: Welcome to Episode 5

• 01:00 - Why I launched the newsletter series (1,2,3 and Three Leadership Keys)

• 02:00 - A powerful Zig Ziglar quote on honesty and self-awareness

• 03:00 - The backstory: Leaving corporate life exactly four years ago

• 04:00 - Lesson 1: Real clarity comes in life's toughest moments

• 06:00 - Personal insights from my wife's cancer treatments

• 08:00 - Lesson 2: If you want real growth, invest heavily in yourself and your business

• 10:00 - Lesson 3: Productivity means being intentionally selfish with your time

• 12:00 - My personal daily and weekly time-management strategies

• 12:59 - Lesson 4: Everyone needs an accountability group (and why)

• 14:00 - Lesson 5: My favorite title of all time: "Grandstand"

• 16:00 - Lesson 6: The power of having your Plan B ready

• 18:00 - Lesson 7: You can't please everyone—and that's okay

• 19:00 - Lesson 8: Being kind beats being nice every single time

• 21:00 - Lesson 9: Be an owner, not a victim—take control of your narrative

• 22:59 - Lesson 10: The freedom and power of being authentically YOU

• 24:00 - Quick recap of the ten lessons

• 26:00 - Action step: Defining your personal Plan B

• 27:00 - Closing thoughts: Connect with me and keep growing intentionally

Wherever you find yourself today, these lessons are designed to meet you right where you are and equip you to take confident, purposeful action. Let's dive in—your next chapter starts now!

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NFL to Executive: Playing Both Sides of Ball...Fred Wakefield’s Playbook for Leadership

What does it take to excel both on the field and in business?

In this episode, I had the incredible pleasure of sitting down with former NFL player turned successful business executive, Fred Wakefield. Fred’s journey is truly inspiring—from his humble beginnings in small-town Illinois, to an eight-year professional football career with the Arizona Cardinals and Oakland Raiders, and now as a thriving CEO and founding partner of thriveCXO.

Fred is not your typical executive. He's someone who understands adaptability and resilience better than anyone I know. His unique experience of playing both offense and defense in the NFL—something few athletes ever do—became a cornerstone of his business leadership style. Fred shares the highs and lows of his athletic career, the pivotal moments that shaped his leadership approach, and how he translates those lessons into his consulting practice today.

If you've ever wondered how elite athletes transition into successful business leaders, or how to truly leverage your unique strengths and adaptability, this conversation is for you.

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Key insights from this episode include:

• How Fred navigated going undrafted in the NFL, overcoming setbacks, and ultimately securing an 8-year professional career.

• His unique experience playing both sides of the ball (offense and defense), and how adaptability became his superpower.

• Essential leadership lessons learned from his NFL coaches, teammates, and the challenging realities of professional sports.

• The crucial role faith and meaningful mentorship played throughout his life, both on and off the field.

• Practical insights into thriving in business and leadership roles after professional sports, including handling setbacks and "failing forward."

Whether you're an athlete, a leader, or someone simply looking for strategies on resilience and effective leadership, Fred’s story will motivate you to embrace challenges and continuously grow.

Links:

https://www.stangibsonspeaks.com

Episode Minute By Minute:

• 00:00 - Intro: Meet Fred Wakefield

• 02:00 - How Fred and I first connected through our mutual passion for Illinois sports

• 06:00 - Fred’s upbringing in small-town Illinois and early life challenges

• 10:00 - Navigating recruitment and choosing the University of Illinois

• 14:00 - Fred's NFL draft journey and overcoming disappointment going undrafted

• 19:00 - The intense reality of NFL training camp as a rookie

• 23:00 - How Fred earned his spot on the Cardinals and the power of adaptability

• 28:00 - Unique challenges of transitioning from defense to offense mid-career

• 33:00 - Life after the NFL: Finding a new purpose and transitioning to business

• 37:00 - Fred’s journey in entrepreneurship and founding thriveCXO

• 41:00 - The common pitfalls leaders face and how Fred helps them succeed

• 45:00 - Harnessing strengths, personality assessments, and the power of self-awarenes

• 47:00 - The integral role of faith throughout Fred’s life and career

• 49:00 - Fred shares about his family and personal achievements beyond football

• 52:00 - Closing thoughts: How to connect with Fred and live a purposeful life

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The Ambassador of Culture with CEO John Combs

In this episode, get ready to dive into a candid conversation with John Combs, a highly respected leader and "Ambassador of Culture" in commercial real estate. John, CEO and visionary founder of River Rock Real Estate Group, shares powerful insights into building an authentic, people-first company culture that propelled his firm from zero to managing over 50 million square feet.

John opens up about his leadership philosophy, emphasizing the critical roles of listening, humor, celebrating individual wins, and empowering teams. From overcoming personal and professional challenges to practical advice on maintaining team morale and accountability, this conversation offers valuable wisdom for leaders in any industry.

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In this episode, you'll discover:

• The story behind John's impressive journey and how he built River Rock Real Estate from scratch

• Why prioritizing happy clients, happy employees, and profitability creates sustainable success

• How to effectively use humor and genuine care to diffuse workplace friction

• The importance of adapting leadership styles to meet individual employee needs

• Practical tips for fostering a positive and empowering corporate culture

Join us as John shares both the trials and triumphs of leadership, revealing why authenticity and caring leadership are non-negotiable keys to lasting success.

Links:

https://www.stangibsonspeaks.com

https://www.melrobbins.com/book/the-let-them-theory/

Episode Minute By Minute:

• 00:00 – Welcome and introduction to special guest, John Combs

• 02:00 – John shares a humorous story about podcasting and overcoming technical mishaps

• 04:00 – Reflecting on John's leadership journey and notable achievements

• 07:00 – The early days: How Stan and John first connected professionally

• 10:00 – How John developed early leadership skills and personal growth

• 14:00 – John's leadership philosophy: genuinely caring about employees

• 17:00 – Practical leadership insights: adapting to flexible employee needs

• 21:00 – Creating a healthy employee culture with impactful wellness initiatives

• 26:00 – Overcoming personal and professional setbacks, including major career crossroads

• 31:00 – John’s courageous personal journey and its impact on his leadership

• 35:00 – How authentic leadership influences business success and employee satisfaction

• 38:00 – Reflections on building a successful company culture and meaningful legacy

• 42:00 – Lessons learned from working with and caring for horses

• 45:00 – John's "magic trick" for leadership success: listening and humor

• 48:00 – Closing reflections and key takeaways from John's wisdom

Tune in for an inspiring conversation that will challenge and encourage you to lead with authenticity and intentionality.

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From Worst to First: Lessons in Human-Centric Leadership

In this episode, join leadership expert Stan Gibson as he shares the remarkable story of his college football experience, where he witnessed firsthand the powerful transformation of a team going from "worst to first." Stan dives into how a new coaching philosophy centered on people-centric leadership drastically turned around a struggling football program, leading them to an incredible national championship victory.

Through personal anecdotes and memorable lessons, Stan reveals critical insights into effective leadership, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, surrounding yourself with the right people, empowering your team, and boosting morale through thoughtful, meaningful actions.

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In this episode, you'll discover:

• How self-awareness and recognizing individual strengths lead to team success

• The significance of empowering team members and giving them a voice

• Real-life examples of transforming team morale and performance through thoughtful leadership

• Practical lessons from legendary football coach Darryl Mudra ("Dr. Victory")

• Strategies for turning setbacks into powerful comebacks, both on and off the field

This inspiring story provides valuable takeaways for anyone looking to build resilient, thriving teams and foster effective, empowering leadership.

Links:

https://www.stangibsonspeaks.com

Episode Minute By Minute:

• 00:00 – Welcome back to The Inspiration Podcast

• 01:00 – Preview of today's episode: Going from worst to first

• 02:00 – Stan’s personal journey as a preferred walk-on at Eastern Illinois University

• 03:30 – Experiencing a disappointing 1-10 season despite great talent

• 05:00 – Meeting new coach Darryl Mudra, "Dr. Victory," and his unique philosophy

• 07:00 – Importance of self-awareness and assembling the right team

• 08:00 – Introduction of legendary coaching staff, including Mike Shanahan

• 10:30 – Retaining talent from the previous unsuccessful team

• 11:00 – Empowering players to provide critical on-field feedback

• 13:00 – Boosting team morale through meaningful changes

• 15:00 – Understanding the difference between temporary incentives and genuine development

• 16:00 – The lasting legacy and impact of Mudra’s leadership approach

• 18:00 – Applying these lessons to Stan’s coaching opportunity

• 20:00 – Stan’s high school coaching challenge: going from an 89-6 defeat to competitive success

• 23:00 – Celebrating small wins and listening to player insights

• 24:30 – Final reflections on the power of people-centric leadership

• 25:00 – Closing thoughts: Identity transformation and self-awareness

Ready to turn setbacks into comebacks and lead with purpose? Let’s get started.

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Having a Plan B...Meet Leadership Expert Stan Gibson!

In this episode, get to know leadership expert Stan Gibson as he shares his personal journey and the foundational principles behind The Inspiration Podcast. Stan opens up about the importance of having a Plan B, reflecting on his rich 40-year corporate leadership career, his journey into executive coaching, keynote speaking, and becoming an author and podcaster.

You'll learn why Stan believes deeply in self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and intentional living as cornerstones of effective leadership. Hear how his experiences—from his marriage of 43 years and becoming a "GrandStan" to his early days on the football field—have shaped his leadership style and commitment to helping others reach their highest potential.

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In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why everyone needs a Plan B and how to start building yours now

• Stan’s unique approach to leadership coaching through his "three-legged stool" framework

• Real-life stories highlighting the importance of self-awareness and intentionality

• Insights drawn from Stan’s personal and professional experiences that shaped his coaching philosophy

• A powerful life-changing lesson inspired by a meaningful encounter and quote from the Dalai Lama

This episode sets the stage for a series filled with practical advice, real-world stories, and inspiring conversations aimed at helping you thrive personally and professionally.

Links:

https://www.stangibsonspeaks.com

Episode Minute By Minute:

• 00:00 – Welcome and introduction to The Inspiration Podcast

• 02:15 – The Listener’s Handshake: Getting to know Stan Gibson

• 04:20 – Lessons from the sitcom King of Queens on starting fresh

• 07:00 – Sneak peek at Season 1 guests and topics

• 10:45 – Exploring leadership "climbs" and overcoming challenges

• 14:10 – Why episodes are intentionally 30 minutes or less

• 16:30 – Stan’s personal journey: marriage, family, and becoming "GrandStan"

• 21:05 – Leadership lessons learned from college football

• 24:30 – Stan’s corporate experience and the critical importance of having a Plan B

• 28:45 – Stan’s three-legged stool of leadership explained: Emotional Intelligence, Fitness & Well-being, Productivity & Systems

• 32:10 – A powerful life insight from the Dalai Lama

• 35:15 – A friend’s profound perspective: "When death becomes certain, life becomes rich"

• 39:50 – The impact of intentionality in life and leadership

• 42:30 – Actionable advice: Identifying your personal "swim lane"

• 44:15 – Closing thoughts and invitation to connect further

Ready to build your Plan B and lead with intention? Let’s dive in together.

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I Could Have Helped Vinny Gambini (My Cousin Vinny) Relax and Focus…Really!

In the movie “My Cousin Vinny” (if you haven’t seen it…CHECK IT OUT!) there's a hilarious scene where Vinny Gambini (Joe Pesci) desperately has to focus on a court case to free his nephew Billy Gambini (Ralph Maccio) from a wrongful crime. Never mind that Vinny is not even an attorney, he’s from New York and stuck in Beechum County, Alabama (fictitious location) which is rural to say the least and it’s driving Vinny nuts because he can’t RELAX long enough to FOCUS. He hears everything while he tries to sleep from owls to coyotes, to crickets. The SOLUTION: Vinny breaks the law himself to get thrown in a noisy out of control jail cell as that’s what he’s used to in New York and consequently has the best night’s sleep he’s had in months!

Brain Waves…How Boring!

All of us relax and/or focus better in different environments. Give me a coffee shop with noise and I’m laser focused! Isolate me in Beechum County, AL and I’m Vinny begging for distractions in an effort to get blogs completed, prep for clients, and speeches framed up! However, while we’re all different, we all have the same brain waves of which only one helps us relax while the other helps us focus! Brain waves are electrical energy being generated when the brain’s neurons communicate. They’re measured in hertz (Hz) and are measured in cycles per second. Hang with me for just a little bit as it’s important to know that there are five brain waves (Delta, Theta, Alpha, Beta, and Gamma) and one of them is OPTIMAL for relaxing while the other helps us focus!

The Alpha State and Beta State….What You Need to Know About Relaxing so that You Can Focus

At the risk of writing a blog too long to relax or focus, let me just tell you, the Alpha State (8-12 Hz) is the sound wave you want so that you can truly relax. For best results, let me give you Six ways to get those brain waves calmed down long enough to enter the Alpha state.

• Drinking tea (black, green or white) - It contains Theanine which helps generate alpha brain waves

• Aerobic exercise - about 30-40 minutes of exercise or yoga is a perfect way to lower cortisol (fear) and get in a relaxed state

• Being in nature and just walking around, sitting, and admiring God’s creation!

• A glass of wine (Now we’re talking!)....but don’t overdo it as the sugar component may play havoc getting into a deep sleep.

• Positive/uplifting music - I have a soundtrack on my Spotify that instantly puts me in a great mood for relaxing

• Meditation/breathing techniques (LINK to BREATHING blog) are probably the best! Making this a daily routine is CRITICAL.

So what about Focus?

Well, the beta brain waves (12-38 Hz) dominate our normal waking state where attention is directed towards cognitive tasks and the outside world. There are actually three levels of Beta from a fast idle, to high engagement (figuring something out), and a highly complex wave for engaging in new experiences. Enough of the science stuff…how do I get into this Beta Super Focused State?

• Spotify and other music streamers make it super easy by typing in Focus and then presto….there are countless spotify playlist for deep focus. Now, a word of warning, you’ll hear a lot of funky sounds and noises of which you’ve never heard before. However, the waves are meant to block out distractions (i.e. lyrics that immediately take you back to a date or a party and instantly you're doing karaoke in the coffee shop).

• Your environment speaks volumes about where to best concentrate. As mentioned earlier, I know my Strengths (StrengthsFinder) and while Focus is one of my Strengths, I also have WOO (Winning Others Over) of which being around people (with my Spotify Focus Playlist) actually allows me to do 2 or 3X what I would accomplish in a benign environment. Knowing your makeup and putting guardrails around that environment will do wonders for intense focus sessions.

So how do you relax and focus best? Are you Vinny and need something just short of a jail cell to get the rest you need so that you can focus? Give me some ideas and I’ll throw them into a follow up blog as I talk about the other brain waves and why they’re important.

This Blog is done….Now I can Relax:)

The 4 Keys to Managing Your Career! Purpose, Energy, Relationships, Mindfulness

If there are any positive after-effect from the pandemic (which is now 4 years old!), it’s that many people are putting their well-being FIRST! Everyone is rethinking purpose and what “lights them up” and organizations are now realizing leadership development needs a shift as well in order to attract, retain, and engage top talent.

After years of research, purpose, energy (sleep, nutrition, exercise, hydration), relationships, and mindfulness continue to be the keys to well-being at work…and at home! My personal mantra is that if you aren’t hitting on all cylinders at work, you won’t be fully engaged at home. And on the other hand, if things on the home front aren’t in alignment, you won’t be optimal at work.

1. Purpose - There is a Japanese word called “Ikigai''. Its meaning is “to have a reason to wake up''. There is no word in the Japanese dictionary for “retirement”. They go through life with meaning and daily engagement and many past 100 years of age. Over 30 years ago, Dr. George Land was asked by NASA to create a test to produce the best and brightest astronauts. This test was designed to find everyone’s “Genius”. However, Dr. Lands did something very interesting. He gave this test to 1600 preschoolers. To everyone’s amazement, they scored 98% on this assessment. He then waited until these pre-schoolers were 15 and gave them the same assessment…they now scored 12%. By the time they were in their early 30’s they scored a dismal 2%. What happened along the way? Why did they quit dancing in the moment as they did in preschool? Part of the theory is that they conformed. They lost their Ikigai and reason to wake up.  For that reason, I’m a big believer in various assessments that help individuals and teams find their Ikigai otherwise known as their “swim lanes”. We all enjoy life more and are exponentially creative and effective when we know our purpose.

2. Physical Energy - While the pandemic played havoc on mental and physical wellbeing (i.e., 90M Americans suffer from level 1 and 2 PTS), everyone had more time to create good (and bad) habits eventually realizing that getting more sleep, cooking at home, taking walks and exercising were making a big difference in their energy levels.

3. For example, the consequences of poor sleep (less than 7 hours for adults) are higher blood pressure, diabetes/obesity, heart disease, and slow physical recovery. Having a consistent time going to bed and rising, better routines 2-3 hours before going to bed (i.e., no food/alcohol 3 hours before bed, shutdown work related activities 2 hours before and no technology 1 hour before sleep) will make a huge difference in your productivity the following day.

4. Nutrition - There are five key activities that break down our immune system and cause sickness and disease. Good Nutrition however is far and away the leader in protecting our immune system and staying healthy. While I don’t prescribe specific nutrition plans, the science around intermittent fasting and diets with modified proteins, vegetables/fruits, and healthy fats will play a huge role in protecting your heart and feeding the brain. As Hippocrates said in 460 BC, “Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food”.

   Exercise and movement are another key routine if you want higher amounts of energy. Exercise lowers cortisol (the hormone which causes fear), activates the amygdala (focus/emotion/behavior), increases the neuro-transmitter serotonin and dopamine (happiness/drive), and stimulates a tiny hair like substance  on our chromosomes called telomeres which delays aging.

5. Relationships - While sleep, nutrition, and exercise can lower mortality by 25%, science is showing that happy and effective relationships can improve your mortality by 65%! Having happy and committed relationships, romance, close friendships, volunteering and caring for others, kindness, and optimism are all forms of healthy relationships. In addition to improving our mortality, healthy relationships lower cortisol (fear), stress/inflammation, and improve our memory. In fact, Gallup studies have shown that “those who [have a best friend at work] are seven times as likely to be engaged in their jobs, are better at engaging customers, produce higher quality work, have higher well-being, and are less likely to be injured on the job.

6. Mindfulness, or slowing down the brain in order to bring a sense of calm and clarity, is essential in today’s stress filled society where mental illness is becoming another major concern in society. The ability to take time to meditate, learn breathing techniques, visualization, journaling, and yoga is critical for wellbeing. When our brain waves are out of balance, there will be corresponding problems in both our emotional or neuro-physical health. Overarousal in certain brain areas is linked to anxiety disorders, sleep problems, nightmares, behavior issues, anger, aggression, and agitated depression. So, take the time to journal in the morning or before bedtime. Take some deep breaths in and out through the nose which releases nitric oxide to the lungs before that big presentation. Carve out certain times during the day to let mindfulness bring you greater clarity and wellbeing.

Summary

The pandemic seemed to have created a tipping point for most to re-think what it means to live a rich and intentional life. Science is teaching us that purpose, sleep, nutrition, exercise, healthy relationships, and mindfulness make us more effective at work and at home. I firmly believe that culture in all companies can and will be improved as leaders and managers are educated on the benefits of mental and physical well being. This greatly impacts individual and team engagement while retaining their greatest asset…YOU.

3 Steps to Reduce Anxiety At Work and Home

Imagine 20K (mostly inebriated) fans waiting with bated breath to cheer or jeer your golf swing while you're on one of the biggest stages in the world. That was the case last weekend at the #TPC Waste Management tournament on the 16th hole in Scottsdale, AZ where Sam Ryder and Carlos Ortiz got their aces. I got a chance to play the same hole a few days later...however, the shot is always easier when no one is watching!

While I can't guarantee a resting heart rate to remain under 65 during stress, I work with teams and leaders to develop #trust and #confidence in one another to perform under pressure. A few helpful hints:

1. Know who you are and who you're not! Find your swim lane and surround yourself with those that elevate you (and vice versa)

2. Learn how to breathe! Sounds easy right? Science shows that nasal breathing is far more effective than breathing through the mouth (i.e. air gets to the lungs more efficient). Several techniques (#boxbreathing, #wimhofmethod, #nasalbreathing) are really effective before tense situations (meetings/presentations/tough conversations)

3. Develop affirmation statements in the present tense (i.e. I am currently confident at.....vs. I will try......). Develop these affirmations, write them 3X before going to sleep daily and change your neurological "sound tracks" over the next 60 days.

These are just a few exercises for your and/or your team to reduce #anxiety, develop #confidence and perform at your BEST! Post any other techniques you use when you're on the big stage and please reach out as I would love to learn more so that I can post additional comments on #leadership and #teamdevelopment.

3 Important Lessons I Learned the first 90 Days Leading a New Division

Several years ago I was hired to elevate a demoralized culture and give hope to 150 employees that had experienced a toxic leader who was every Human Resource department's worst nightmare.

The job was an awesome opportunity and a challenge right up my alley! What I didn’t realize is that 149 employees had already decided who their next leader was…and it wasn’t ME! A very loyal and ultra-capable “2nd in Command” had paid his dues, had the right temperament, and was a safe psychological hire for these wounded warriors that had withstood years of abuse.

Strategy #1:Where There’s Silence, There is a Lack of TRUST…

While I checked off the boxes for weeks after taking the position including personally interviewing 75 of the team members plus countless other department heads to see where the bottlenecks were, there was still one virtue that needed to be tackled before I could be accepted….TRUST!

Developing trust became very apparent and most noticeable during one of my staff meetings. I was gifted a VERY competent staff and replacing any of them was not even on the board. However, I’m a leader who rarely has the answers but I definitely have questions and expect those “smarter than me” at the table to eagerly jump into action. As I worked my way around the table asking for updates, I still got the blank stares and uncomfortable quietness that speaks louder than words. I finally asked the “2nd in Command” for an update and got “nothing”. I asked him again and appeared to wake him up and he answered my question. However, I’m dying in the room! I’m wondering why I took this job and was witnessing the WORST meeting of my career. 

Strategy #2: You Can’t Engage If You Don’t Ask For Opinions

The end of the meeting couldn’t come quick enough and I put my tail between my legs and walked dejectedly back to my office. One of the other executives in the meeting took a different route to my office and sprinted to meet me at the door. His response SHOCKED ME as he looked at me and said, “THAT WAS THE BEST MEETING WE’VE EVER HAD!”. I said, “you’ve got to be kidding me”! How deep in the gutter was this culture that I had inherited this meeting from hell that was in this executive’s opinion the best meeting they ever had?

I walked over to the office of Mr. “2nd in Command '' and calmly asked him, “Why were you so hesitant to respond to me when I asked you a question in our staff meeting? He looked at me and said something so simple yet so profound, “NO ONE HAS EVER ASKED FOR OUR OPINION”. Wow! The simple answer wasn’t tactical or technical, it was TRUST and giving each of them the RESPECT they deserved.

Strategy # 3: Come Clean as the Leader!

You can only guess my opening remarks at our next meeting. It started out with “I’m NOT the guy with the right answers to lead this organization… It’s each of YOU! And we’ll either succeed or fail but I guarantee you we’ll do it together. From that point on, they had a skip to their step and recognized they were directly responsible for our collective success. To this day we laugh about those first few meetings and will fall on the sword for each other. It was a learning experience that has served me well through the years.

Love to hear your story of when you or a leader recognized your gift and unleashed your competency. I would love to learn and possibly post your response in an upcoming blog. Thanks for “Listening”!

Building a Team the Right Way…6 Strategies from Steve Kerr, coach of the Golden State Warriors

Boy that Steve Kerr guy is lucky to have played for the Chicago Bulls, San Antonio Spurs, and THEN he gets blessed with great talent at Golden State! Some guys have all of the “luck”....Or maybe, Steve Kerr just GET’S IT!

Besides a really nice playing career in the NBA (5 titles with 2 teams), Steve Kerr has led the Golden State Warriors to three NBA titles as a coach who knows how to create a “WINNING CULTURE”. Yes, having Stephon Curry as a player could even make you and I a decent coach, Steve Kerr is a student of leadership management and culture. Being a coach in the NBA is less about X & 0’s and more about motivating mega wealthy guys under contract. In fact, when disputes arise, the coach is always the first to go.

So what is his secret to Leadership and Culture? Steve Kerr believes in one thing, “Where there is a great culture, people do great things! They try harder every day, become better, and play at a level above what others thought they were capable of''! Corporate America, are you listening?? During the Great Resignation, The Big Quit, The Great Reshuffle, or whatever you want to call it, a great culture and leadership wins every time.

So what are Coach Kerr’s biggest leadership lessons and how does he create a vibrant culture? Below are six strategies Steve has used to develop a winning culture for the Golden State Warriors.

1. He Speaks the truth candidly and stays focused on moving the team forward. 

2. He fosters an environment where everyone has an equal voice. While some players have a greater natural gift than others, everyone contributes, everyone has value, and everyone is heard.

3. He listens and hears his players. The respect his players have for him comes from the fact that he listens and cares about their comments

4. He has created a culture of learning. A growth mindset combie3d with a cohesive team leads to players selflessly pushing themselves for the greater good.

5. He empowers his players to flourish. Facing a dip in team motivation, He empowered multiple players to coach the team leading to a blowout victory over the Phoenix Suns.

6. Steve Kerr is each player's strongest advocate! He always has their best interest in mind. Other players notice this (especially those that would like to play for the Warriors after their contracts have expired.

The strategies above are extremely relevant to any company and leader regardless of size or industry. As a leadership development enthusiast, I have invested (and certified) dearly in Patrick Lencioni’s leadership paradigm. It’s similar to Steve Kerr’s philosophy and starts with trust and authenticity. Once trust is established a team can engage in healthy conflict, commitment, accountability, and targeted results. 

I love to talk about sports and would love your comments regarding Steve Kerr’s leadership philosophy and/or how Patrick Lencioni’s paradigm elevates and creates a culture of engagement. Finally, it never hurts to have Steph Curry draining 3’s while you’re the coach, but it takes a TRUE LEADER to get the best out of everyone on the team. I look forward to hearing from you!

I’m the Chief Navigator and I Demand to Know Where I’m Going! THREE Strategies to Starting a New Business or Career!

My dad often said this when we were in the car and to put it bluntly, “We were lost”. Oftentimes we’re leading and everyone thinks we have Google Maps tucked away in our cranium somewhere on instant recall but honestly, WE’RE LOST! My dad, like the rest of us driving the bus, didn't let us know we were lost but at least had the humility to make light of it.

So maybe we’re not lost but Google Maps would be ever so handy in the game of leadership and starting a business. When I started Oxygen Plus, in pure “Activator” fashion I took off running the 100M race. The problem I found out was that starting a company is more akin to the 3000M run (notice the difference in race vs. run?). I had already written a book, had several successful beta test clients over the years, and delivered numerous keynote speeches leading up to launching my company. So the next logical step is getting clients, right? I promptly sunk a decent amount of change on sales consultants before coming to the conclusion that maybe…just maybe…I should create a FOUNDATION before trying to land clients. Or more accurately I think God laughed at my Activator button, let me take a few left turns, and then put the necessary relationships in my life to WAKE ME UP!

1. Strategy #1: Create a Personal Board of Directors - I know, I’m being a little facetious but the bottom line is, Great Coaches and Leaders, employ even GREATER Coaches and Mentors. They learn from those that have been down the long and dusty road many times and lived to tell about it. Early on I created my own Board of Directors. I really couldn’t afford to pay anyone but I knew enough business leaders to ask for advice (retired Executives are GREAT resources!). 

2. Strategy #2: Cash over Flash - Paying money up front for websites, applications, office accommodations, etc. may be critical, but keep it simple! Cash flow is important and it may be 2-3 years before you can pay yourself. Watch the pennies and focus on the client and what will bring in cash flow. I made the mistake of paying for a Sales coach before creating a foundation. I eventually worked with a business coach with a focus on who my ideal clients were so that I could focus accordingly. This was money well spent!

3. Strategy #3: Start With the End in Mind! - It’s simple advice! BREATHE before starting anything of importance, Visualize, and see the END IN MIND. I have clients envision their life/business venture five years out with great detail so that we can work backward. As you work backward from your vision, identify 30, 60, 90-day strategies to get started. Incorporate a Board of Directors mentioned above for their advice. Pivot if you must, but stick with the plan and have PATIENCE!

Please reach out as I love to hear any stories regarding getting started, successes, and ultimately creating a stable Foundation. I often post (without using names) great stories like yours and mine and my readers “love a good leadership story”!

SURGERY AND CURRENT BUSINESS HEADWINDS…WHAT THEY HAVE IN COMMON

There are a LOT of Headwinds in the economy these days. It will get better…but NOT without pain. I’m working with various organizations to create tailwinds out of these headwinds. 

Ironically, I recently had a tear in my meniscus resulting in knee surgery which in perspective mirrors a lot of the same pain I’m seeing leaders and organizations go through. I don’t wish either on anyone…but we’re going to have to deal with these headwinds for a while.

Lessons Learned From Surgery (and Leadership)

1. Don’t underestimate the pain (and leadership can be painful)!

2. Great doctors are only as strong as those they work with (i.e physical therapists, nurses, staff, etc), They will make your life MUCH easier!

3. The knee won’t heal itself…routines (systems) and a great physical therapist (mentors) accelerates the healing process immensely. The same goes for agility (business agile) at work!

4. Crutches (help) are typically needed at the onset…but true Leaders eventually learn how to toss the crutches aside. Leaders connect unique patterns and people and consistently create value.

5. Patience is the key to recovery! Successful outcomes take time (I wish I had heeded this advice!!)

Move on!

While we can hopefully avoid surgery, we can’t avoid recessions and tough times. There are days when it’s easy and days (that seem like months) that are painful! Some of your decisions will cost you or your company a lot of money, some may cost you credibility, however, time is always on your side. Surgeries and physical therapy (like leadership) are painful but most people heal (physically and mentally). Be patient, get the right doctor (mentor/advisor), and use every opportunity to LEARN along the way. 

I’m developing an exhaustive tool kit for business leaders that will be posted under Coaching Tools at www.oxygen-plus.net

3 CAREER STRATEGIES BEFORE YOU GET THE PINK SLIP

If you’re like me…you want to LEAD! From early on everything came fairly easy. Growing up in a small midwest farming community, I excelled in sports, theater, school, and just about anything I put my mind to…Went to college to play football, get a degree and launch a fast-tracked career because…well, success had always been right around the corner!

This Stuff Doesn’t Happen to Me…Does It?

After college, my wife and I moved to Dallas and I was determined to take it by storm! That’s what Leaders like you and I do, right? Move on and move up!  And then, HUMILITY and REALITY set in. Within five months (and because I didn’t understand how the real world worked), I was given a 30-day notice to “Get on Track or Find Another Job”. 

In hindsight, this was absolutely the BEST thing that ever happened in my career as a leader. After the harsh ultimatum, I went back to my small apartment, buried my head (shed a few tears), and came to this conclusion:

Strategy #1: I WILL NEVER ALLOW OTHERS TO DICTATE MY FUTURE…MY SUCCESS BELONGS TO ME!

Create a Career Strategy…Before Your Forced To

That afternoon I wrote several goals on the back of an envelope. I listed courses, certifications, goals, and the work ethic I would adhere to over the next 36 months. I made a decision to seek business contacts and leaders that could give me wise advice and counsel that I couldn’t get on my own. Within three years, with total humility and strong faith, I met every goal on that envelope and have been fortunate enough to survive 35 years in the corporate world as both an entrepreneur and Fortune 500 executive. I’m also an author, keynote speaker, and consultant/coach to many organizations and leaders.

Strategy #2: Be Intentional About Scheduling Plan B

To be successful you MUST have a PLAN! In fact, after 35 years in the corporate real estate industry, I found myself again on the “outside looking in”. The company was looking to shed 30-50K employees and the All-Star team I was blessed to have assembled and coached could be downsized with an opportunity for me to leave earlier than anticipated.  How did it affect me this time?

NOT AT ALL! I ALREADY KNEW MY PURPOSE, STRENGTHS, AND AMBITIONS. I HAD INTENTIONALLY SCHEDULED TIME FOR “PLAN B” YEARS IN ADVANCE.

In fact, I had been researching the physiological, psychological, and neurological effects of leaders for over 10 years. I had been speaking across the country and wrote a book titled “Living a Rich and Intentional Life”. Little did I know that my “life lesson” right out of college reinforced my mantra  “MY SUCCESS BELONGS TO ME”! 

Strategy #3: Know Your Gifts (and your Kryptonite)

As a Consultant and Executive Coach, I’m committed to helping Leaders know their strengths, blindspots, and ideal swimlane. There are many assessments of which I use an assortment depending on the client’s situation (StrengthFinders, DiSC, and Kolbe A). The key is to basically articulate with full clarity your sweet spot and build on your gifts. As for weaknesses, it’s best to be aware (especially when under stress) but not give energy to areas that don’t serve you in the long run.

What’s your story? Have you experienced some extreme humility along the way? Love to hear your story! Please drop me a note as I would love to learn more from you and others that have had to pivot without notice. Thanks and Live a Rich and Intentional Life!

WAIT… I THOUGHT I HAD CONTROL OF MY CAREER AND THE ECONOMY?

I have an unfortunate advantage over most readers, I’ve experienced more bear markets and recessions than most of you. Having started my career in Dallas, TX in the early-mid ’80s, it was RECESSION PROOF! Houston was on life support because of oil, and the Rust Belt was…well, the Rust Belt. And inflation and interest rates were almost illegal (ie.15-20% mortgages). But I lived in Dallas, TX where NOTHING COULD GO WRONG! In fact, by the time I was 25 I owned two homes and was looking to invest in more. What could go wrong??? 

Yikes…Didn’t see that coming!

Within a few years and after legislative changes to banking that no one could predict, the stock market and people’s lives crashed! While I made it through the 80s cash neutral, I considered myself lucky and fortunate. From that time on, I’ve learned to NEVER say NEVER…just as I did 6 months ago. 

The economy is still in favor of the employee but leverage is evaporating depending on the industry. Wages have increased 4% in 2022 and chances are you won’t be out of a job long but may have to make a few more concessions. But, if you thought the recession in 2008 was a “one-time thing”, I urge you to learn a lesson I learned early in life…. NEVER say NEVER! With mortgage rates nearing 6%, gas prices exceeding $5-6/gallon, and GDP going “Stupidly” high, companies have less in the coffers to invest and grow. The natural reaction is to cut or quit posting new jobs. And the government and world economy can always throw a legislative curveball that can swing things in a different direction (aka Russia/Afghanistan??)

3 Strategies To Future Proof Your Career

1. Focus on the BIG MONTHLY EXPENSES! Small stuff (daily coffee at your favorite barista) adds up but it’s pennies on the dollar compared to the BIG stuff (rent/mortgage/utilities/car payment/insurance premiums, etc.). Focus and create strategies for any expenses over 10% of your monthly take-home pay.

2. Quit jobs if you must BUT on good terms. It’s a small world and bad exits have a way of creeping back into your life at the wrong time.

3. Find what you love best and be the best at it. If the pandemic has taught us anything it’s that life is short, can change on a dime, and regrets are no fun. Get a mentor/coach or someone that can guide you to being THE BEST VERSION OF YOU!

And remember, NEVER say NEVER! Trust me on this one! There will be multiple highs and lows throughout your career. Just be PREPARED in either cycle!

Love to hear your take or experience especially if you’re thinking of pivoting in your career, starting a business,  or aspiring to reach the next level! Please reach out at Sgibson@oxygen-plus.net!

I WILL NEVER ALLOW OTHERS TO DICTATE MY FUTURE…MY SUCCESS BELONGS TO ME!

If you’re like me…you want to LEAD! From early on everything came fairly easy. Growing up in a small midwest farming community, I excelled in sports, theater, school, and just about anything I put my mind to…Went to college to play football, get a degree and launch a fast-tracked career because…well, success had always been right around the corner!

After college, my wife and I moved to Dallas and I was determined to take it by storm! That’s what Leaders like you and I do, right? Move on and move up! And then, HUMILITY and REALITY set in. Within five months (and because I didn’t understand how the real world worked), I was given a 30-day notice to “Get on Track or Find Another Job”.

In hindsight, this was absolutely the BEST thing that ever happened in my career as a leader. After the harsh ultimatum, I went back to my small apartment, buried my head (shed a few tears) and came to this conclusion:

I WILL NEVER ALLOW OTHERS TO DICTATE MY FUTURE…MY SUCCESS BELONGS TO ME!

That afternoon I wrote several goals on the back of an envelope. I listed courses, certifications, goals, and the work ethic I would adhere to over the next 36 months. I made a decision to seek business contacts and leaders that could give me wise advice and counsel that I couldn’t get on my own. Within three years, with total humility and strong faith, I met every goal on that envelope and have been fortunate enough to survive 35 years in the corporate world as both an entrepreneur and Fortune 500 executive. I’m also an author, keynote speaker, and consultant/coach to many organizations and leaders.

However, to be successful you MUST have a PLAN! In fact, after 35 years in the corporate real estate industry, I found myself again on the “outside looking in”. The company was looking to shed 30-50K employees and the All Star team I was blessed to have assembled and coached could be downsized with an opportunity for me to leave earlier than anticipated. How did it affect me this time?

NOT AT ALL! I ALREADY KNEW MY PURPOSE, STRENGTHS, AND AMBITIONS. I HAD A PLAN B IN PLACE AND WAS LIVING A RICH AND INTENTIONAL LIFE!!

In fact, I had been researching the physiological, psychological, and neurological effects of leaders for over 10 years. I had been speaking across the country and wrote a book titled “Living a Rich and Intentional Life”. Little did I know that my “life lesson” right out of college reinforced my mantra “MY SUCCESS BELONGS TO ME”!

As a Consultant and Executive Coach, I’m committed to helping Leaders like you expand, grow, and “Live a Rich and Intentional LIfe! If you’re not good at home…you’re not good at work. And if you’re not good at work, you’re not good at home. I work with Leaders and teams helping them excel “on and off the field”! What is your passion? What passion and purpose have you been gifted with? What areas in your career and “at home” are keeping you from reaching the next level? I would love to connect (no obligations or expectations) and listen to your story. My best testimonies are the clients I’ve served and the referrals they gifted me. I look forward to helping you “LIve a Rich and Intentional Life”!